What is True Self-Love?

Self-love- it’s a concept that is getting a lot of attention these days. There are many articles and blog posts out there that address the need for it in our lives. It is defined by Oxford Dictionaries as “Regard for one’s well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic)” (1).  Your Dictionary defines self-love as “Self love is the belief you hold that you are a valuable and worthy person” (2).

Healthy self-love is the ability to see yourself as good enough, right where you are. There are many cultural mindsets that portray this concept as “selfishness” or a “form of narcissism.” Although there is such a thing as being plain out vain and self-consumed to the exclusion of others, the form of self-love I am talking about here goes to the core of who we are. It celebrates the wonderful, beautiful, unique you. It’s a you that employs healthy boundaries with others while maintaining your essence- who you are- and standing in your power. Too often we give our power away to others to the point that we lose our identity and become just “another face in the crowd.” We follow whoever, whatever, never identifying our value set and living by it.

To be able to live with purpose and intention, we need to reel in our power- bringing it back to ourselves- and take the time to define our values, what we stand for and what is important in our lives. Once we dig deep and define those values and then begin to live by them, then our lives transform, and we become people who live with purpose and intention. Self-love helps us to stay true to our values and intentions, and no matter what the circumstances are in your life, you will fly above and beyond them, staying true to you.

When you practice self-love, you are not only empowering yourself to live your best life, but you are also better equipped and able to be of service to others. So you see, the actions of self-love are not selfish at all- it is a healthy mindset that not only serves your highest good- but the highest good of those you serve!  What things do you do to practice self-love? I would love to hear about your practices in the comments!





  1. https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/us/self-love
  2. http://www.yourdictionary.com/self-love

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